Jim Rohn said success is like a butterfly, you cannot catch it. That hit me. We are all subscribed into “Look for opportunities where they are found” school of thought. We grew up knowing that it is the earliest bird that catches the worm. But lately, I have come to understand that opportunities looking for you are way better. Sometimes we don’t have to be the earliest bird to catch the worm. If we are intentional and strategic enough, the worm will catch itself for us, at any time of the day. It is who we are that determines if success will come to us or not.
Personal value is the magnet that draws success into our life. The higher the value, the higher the reward. Because the solution to having more is to become more, we must constantly look for new ways to raise our value, and that is all about this particular article.
Our goal must be to work harder on ourselves than on anything else. By paying close attention to our thinking, attitude, and behavior, we are positively contributing to what we are becoming. Below are examples of ways in which our value can be increased:
The Key to getting all we want is discipline. Everything of value requires care, attention and discipline. Our thoughts require discipline. We must consistently determine our inner boundaries and our codes of conduct, or our thoughts will be confused. And if our thoughts are confused, we will become hopelessly lost in the maze of life. Confused thoughts produce confused results. We must learn the discipline of paying our bills on time, or arriving to appointments on time, or using our time more effectively. The most valuable form of discipline is the one that we impose upon ourselves. Let us not wait for things to deteriorate so drastically that someone else must impose discipline in our lives.
Success Takes Time. We live in an immediate gratification kind of society. We wish for and admire those who have achieved “overnight success.” We attempt the path of least resistance when it comes to achieving success; we even look for the latest get-rich-quick scheme, or pray and hope for someone rich to love us, so that we cheat our way up the ladder. Crazy, right? I have learned, from the biographies I have read of famous people, that success most certainly does not happen quickly. This is the truth many people don’t want to accept today. Having the patience to go through the process, no matter how long it takes, makes us candidates of success.
What you think is what you get. Our attitude determines the state of the world we live in. It is the foundation for every success and every failure we have had and will have. It will make us or break us. Attitude creates the way we feel about people and situations. Our actions are a result of our attitude—which in turn creates a reaction from others. Attitude controls our lives. But the good news? We control our attitude. It is our attitude towards others and the universe that determines the resulting attitude toward us.
Negative attitude comes from having negative thoughts over and over until they become part of our subconscious, part of our personality—they become habitual. You may not even realize you have a negative attitude because it’s been with you for so long. Once you have a bad attitude, you expect failure and disaster. And that expectation turns you into a magnet for failure and disaster. Then it becomes a vicious cycle: You expect the worst, so you get the worst. Your negative beliefs are reinforced. So you expect the worst, and you get the worst.
So, how do we shift our thoughts and create a positive attitude?
It takes work, but creating anything of value takes work. In order to have a new attitude, we have to change our subconscious thinking. How? By analyzing every thought we have, until positive thinking becomes habit. We are merely replacing an old habit with a healthy habit, much like replacing smoking with exercise.
If we increase our value using the above ways, we will become attractive to success.