Being used is never a good feeling, but unfortunately, it can happen in sneaky ways. It is never easy to see how your partner truly feels about you at the beginning of a relationship. And if they are acting somehow distant, it’s usually too early to say whether it’s because they have been hurt in past relationships, or they are just not that into you.
Unfortunately, many people take advantage of this uncertainty and play with your feelings as long as you follow. They use your sensibility towards them to get the most of it, and then move on to their next prey. These people’s only goal is to manipulate you until it’s entertaining for them. And the moment you stop playing by their rules, they are ready to replace you in the blink of an eye. I have rounded up some signs that your partner doesn’t love you, but rather using you.
They always let you pay the bills: Though you might not be comfortable letting them pay for everything all the time, you shouldn’t be paying for everything either. And if they are always OK with letting you pay for everything, that could be a sign that they are only using you.
They’re always asking for favors: If someone is constantly asking you for favors and isn’t willing to help out anytime you need their help, that’s another potential sign that they’re using you. Someone who does not enjoy your company but always has a purpose/reason for wanting to see you, once they get that favor they want from you, then they will very often be done with you and your relationship.
They are never there for you: Yes, this is too obvious to be overlooked, but sometimes we still do. No matter how many times they’ve shown we cannot count on them, we still patiently wait for this to change. But one question remains: “Will they ever change?” Every time you need them, they are never there. On the contrary, if you are not there for them, they act as if you are the worst person on Earth. This has nothing to do with love. Love should be giving, generous, compassionate, and most importantly, mutual.
They continue doing things that hurt you: When someone is only trying to take advantage of you, they wouldn’t lift a finger to change for you. If your partner is not emotionally involved with you, they wouldn’t even bother to stop doing the things that intimidate you. They wouldn’t care if there is something about them that makes you feel uncomfortable. Why would they? After all, their only goal is to use your vulnerability as long as it suits them.
They never apologize: If someone truly loves you, wouldn’t they ask for your forgiveness whenever they hurt your feelings? Wouldn’t they want to fix the damage they have caused? When someone is deeply sorry for what they’ve done, and proves they deserve to be given a second chance, it’s most probably love. However, in case someone does nothing to repair the broken pieces they left and starts acting as if nothing wrong has happened, they might be only using you.
In case you see even one of the above signs in your relationship, you need to seriously reevaluate your feelings for this person and plan an exit strategy before it ends in tears.